a garage sale I am having today, Saturday, I ran across my old Profiles of Deception gallery of diamonds. I was amazed at the number that had bitten the dust, gotten arrested, etc. etc. I left it in the heavy downpour during a thunderstrom last night by mistake… maybe it wasn’t a mistake? LOL.
I know exactly what you are saying and I know my parents must have felt exactly the same for many years. My wife and I were caught up in the amway/amo cult-like indoctrination for 16 years. We pursued “the business” at the exclusion of almost everything else in our lives. We missed many family events and contantly put the business/system at the top of our priorities. I know you can only see where you son is at now but please be assured that I believe every “ibo” has an inner voice that is constantly questioning things even if that person may not even be aware of it. The system is very good at putting up smoke screens and “creating noise” to drown out that inner voice but over time questions really do remain unanswered and in time they pile one on top of the other. Eventually there is a tipping point where the person starts to realize that things they have believed for sometimes many years may not actually be true. Your message tells me that you deeply love your son and that you will have raised him to have a reliable inner voice. Right now the system has the upper hand but, if you continue to love him and when the chance arises ask questions that may help him start to seek legitimate truthful answers for you, as opposed to what his upline and the system is telling him, I am confident that you will eventually have him back. That will be a great day and I will be praying that it comes for you sooner rather than later.
I wanted him to spend time with the family tonight as his sister is here from SC and will be leaving Wednesday morning. He can’t because he has plans to go to his upline’s cottage.. I told him that his family should be more important than that and that I had asked him to spend less time doing his business stuff while his sister is home. Some words were exchanged. I can’t even recall what he said right before he said ‘and it’s a thought process’. I’m usually very careful of what and how I say things, but I told him that they aren’t his thoughts; it’s what he’s been taught. He said I don’t understand and I said I’ve been trying to. His reply was that I always have a different opinon. That’s when I’m trying to say or ask rebuttal questions to get him to think.
Sometimes I feel a lot of anxiety and am desparate to get him out of this cult. I have to keep my feelings in and walk on eggshells when I talk to him. I have told him that I don’t know what to talk to him about anymore because the only thing he’s interested in is Quixtar. Even my 10 year old grandson told me that ‘Uncle Joe isn’t that much fun anymore’. Sometimes I’m just plain angry about what Quixtar has done
Thanks for listening.
I have a friend that I haven’t seen in a long time who’s been involved, claims to be making money, etc (supposedly he’s a millionaire).
Good luck googling them to find anything objective. I’ve tried and they google bomb like there’s no tomorrow.
I just can’t find any useful information.
Thanks in advance for whatever help you can give.
I think you’re looking for something but MLM isn’t it. I won’t comment on the plan you outlined except to say that if something looks too good to be true….
Can you pinpoint what it is that ‘success’ in MLM would help you achieve?
MLMs always seem to dangle two things infront of prospects: time and money.
If it’s time – what do you want time for? What would you do if you had free time (remember that involvement with any MLM will gobble up lots of your time – are you using this to hide from doing something more creative?)
If it’s money – what do you need more money for? Could you increase your income in a more reliable way – second job, work for a promotion, change your line of work to something which pays better?
Suggest you check out Steve Hassan’s books on cult mind control – you’ll probably recognise some of the techniques which have been used on you in the past.
If more free time is your big wish because you’re a creative person Julia Cameron’s books – “The Artist’s Way” is the most famous, are an excellent starting point.
MLM can be a kind of addiction and you may need time to work your way out of it. Just refocus on what you really want and remember that MLM can’t get it for you.
And if the MLM has any ‘motivational’ materials especially tapes/CDs to listen to, keep well away from them.
It does but here is the rub company hasnt opened yet memberes are being asked to sign up auto ship anyway after four times of being delivered debit cards still havent been delivered no corperate headquarters or building(that Iam aware of) pay paln has been changed four times since march enrollment has been a disaster. four time have they told us to redo or up date our dowlines so while trhe deadlines come and go or the promises never kept members are still being told to buy the products.
Am I sore? You bet Is this a good company?
Dont know it just seem to be a lot of incopentncy up top You know this one I thought was the real deal with the rules being changed. or maybe My mental weakness just wanted to belive
and Am/Quix is not only advertising on our morning news program, they’re sponsoring some of our segments. Makes them sound almost legitimate. Sad.
up to the present Like most people I never made anything but belived the message that they always seemed to say (networking is the most efficent forms of marketing ever)and when ever I walked away would aways say never again In retrospect maybe there is a mental weakness I have to keep coming back .
But to make a long story very short the one reason I writing this is to bring you upto date on a new concept they are using. There are many different ways to borrow money online i.e. company Biogenxglobal was introduced to me back in marchof this year
It was promised they were different from the others in that the
1. start up cost were low
2. would have at the top of the pyramid thousands of (leaders) who had commited to bringing their dowlines with them and that when anyone signed up the computer would automatically bring their dowline under one and therfore with three enrolled at lets say each on a 68.95 auto ship order the enrolle would be paid 1590.00 a month
3. enroll 18 on a 68.95 autoship order one would be paid over eleven millon a month thats right over eleven millon a month
4. no one had to sell just enroll family members even your spouse on the auto ship order
it is a legal product just as someone pointed out MLMs were. Should they be legal is another question and should advertising them be legal is also another question.
OH well, then if its just a mode of marketing then all is well. NOT. Chuck, I was a bit suspicious when you arrived with all your “credentials” on your sleeve. I’m wondering which MLMs you are involved with….you know, the good ones. A quick google on your email address shows that you are working a program that provides a “useful product” where you simply send folks to a website and there’s “no selling involved”. Is this what you recommed to all your clients?
MLMs are not just a mode of marketing. They are a business model. An unethical, faulty one in my eyes (and I’d hazard to guess that quite a few here feel the same given the premise of this blog). Is it possible to make a dime doing them? Certainly, but at what cost? My ethics and a vast amount of money/time? Not saying that hard work ever scared me…heck I was bringing in $60k by the time I was 24 working in the real business world (we’re talking 70 hour weeks). So while there may very well be greed at the top of the MLMs, as a whole, the entire business model is the problem. Not just a few bad apples.
cigarette advertising is illegal in Canada, Australia, and New Zealand.
Most cigarette advertising is illegal in the United Kingdom.
TV and radio advertising of cigarettes has been illegal in the United States since 1971.
Print advertising is legal in most states. A voluntary industry agreement discourages print advertising of cigarattes being included in copies of magazines destined for educational institutions.
For various reasons, many publications won’t accept tobacco advertising. (One small monthly had an editorial wondering about whether or not to accept tobacco advertising. The amount that the tobacco company offered to pay for the add covered the cost of printing the entire publication. It literally would have meant the difference between a marginal financial picture and a very profitable financial picture.)
Worldwide, the majority of cigarette advertising is sponsoring events — concerts, sports competitions, cultural activities, etc.
It’s a mode of marketing that has been greatly abused by those driven by greed. There a some (a few businesses using MLM to market their product which are not necessarily bad. When a MLM starts to use media marketing that’s a first sign that the MLM mode is not working. Personally I would (and do) get more upset with seeing these Girls Gone Bad advertising than I do with seeing a MLM program advertising on TV.
Personally, any businesses accepting ads for MLMs are ones I won’t give my business to (and I let them know that).
John has pointed out that this is not true – and basically, ANY company that sells advertising should have no qualms about advertising for Amway/Nutrilite. Amway pays their bills, they’re selling a legal product, and the ads are family-friendly and nicely done.
they would be advertising on TV, in the near future (A proposed commercial is available on Youtube.)
A couple of other MLMs have either started, or announced that they will be advertising on TV in June and July.
My guess is that it is partially motivated by the number of bankruptcy filings and midnight closings of MLMs in the last two or so months.
I am so determined to kill the Best Buy monster before Christmas ($2300 to go). BB once harassed us on the phone for a bill they claimed we hadn’t paid on time, killed our online payments, and this was before we could pay at the store, wanted $15 to accept an “additional” $106 payment because they claimed we hadn’t paid on time. Problem was we had. I’d made certain it was after the statement shut off date from the previous month’s statement, by one week, paid it online for the current month and had a confirmation #, the money had even cleared our bank. Yet they killed my online payment and tried to charge us a late fee, although the bill was paid over 2 weeks early. We were traveling to make ends meet at that time so it was a real hassle sitting in a campground eating beans and rice and fighting with them over all the fees they were trying to charge me for a bill I had PAID!
I finally got far enough up the food chain that they finally decided to verify my confirmation # (I always keep a pdf of my online payments) and then all the sudden they were oh so sweet and nice and wanted to work with me etc. I got the fee back, they did NOT get the extra payment they were demanding and I decided right then that when it was their turn on the snowball they were GONE at the speed of lightening! It was really hard to not jump them up earlier in the line because of how angry I was with them and they were also my highest interest rate. But we’ve stuck to the pay off schedule. They’ve been the pet bill since July and we’ve knocked off nearly $1,000 a month off of it. I am seriously looking forward to the day it is GONE forever.
My car loan payment is obnoxious…and it’s unfortunately not our next snowball, but at least when we took it out, we did a 4 year instead of the 6 or 7 year they offer now.
Our loan is through a credit union, and they have a 14 day grace period , but if you even 1 day late, you can no longer pay online! Which may not be an issue, except their site is constantly down for maintenance or problems. Their representatives say, well, you’ll just have to come in to a credit union location.
I guess it all lights fires under us to try to do something about things!
Car loan statement generates around the 23rd of each month. Due by the 20th of the following month. 10 days grace without a late fee; days 11-30 $25 late fee but not reported to credit reporting co’s, days 31+ can be reported.
We are at Day 33, finally collected enough $ with the odds and ends job to make the car payment.
Went to go make the payment online. Now that a new statement has generated my account shows (correctly) the past due payment, and the current payment.
Which is enough at Hells Fargo, to CLOSE MY ABILITY TO MAKE A PAYMENT ONLINE. My only choice (their words) is “to call and make a payment over the phone. Yes there’s a fee.”
I’m like….do you get paid EXTRA to lie, and does that even make sense? Why would you make it HARDER for people to get money to you?
Answer: Well, it’s IMPORTANT that you CALL US so we can find out what’s going on. That’s why we shut it off if you go past 30 days.
I’m like, really? That’s funny, because when I CALLED YOU last month to try and work something out, you told me to jump off a cliff.
I said, so you’re saying my only option is to make a payment over the phone? I can’t send you a check?
She goes, well, yeah, you can send a check, but it’s better to make a payment over the phone. I’m like, unless you’re going to waive the “payment fee”, no thanks. I’ll send a check.
I cannot wait to pay these people off and NEVER GET ANOTHER CAR LOAN THE REST OF MY LIFE.